Instructor Maria Blevins, PhD, explains what it means to transform conflict into a constructive process, and gives some tips for how we can approach conflict in a different way in our work and everyday lives.
Interpersonal conflict can be all consuming… hurt feelings, misunderstanding, and hostile mind reading can negatively impact relationships. When conflict is viewed as a battle to be won- damage to lovers, family members, friends, coworkers and your self can be inflicted. However, re-framing conflict as an opportunity to explore new dimensions in a relationship can foster deeper understanding and connection with others. Rethinking conflict as an adventure in which new discoveries can be made about other people and yourself allows it be an opening to transform relationships.
Some ways to re-frame conflict involve:
• Viewing conflict as an indication that something in your relationship can get better instead of viewing it as something to win. There are no prizes to being the winner of a marriage or a friendship- and if someone is trying to win- usually the relationship loses.
• Developing the skills to identify why you are upset and what resolution would look like.
• Exploring what you want and need from the person you are in conflict with.
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